For starters - If you haven't read about how we got to North Carolina - I highly suggest first reading my blog post - Our Move to North Carolina to learn about what brought us here! But here we are 1️⃣ whole year later - life is COMPLETELY different & I've learned a lot along the way. And if you know me - I gotta share all my thoughts so here we go! -
Moving isn't as hard as it seems. Was it super easy packing up our entire life and moving to a completely different state? Well, no… not exactly... but it certainly wasn't as complicated as we made it seem! There definitely were hurdles, but our desire for a new start didn't allow anything to stand in our way. Once we made the decision to leave things fell into place so much better than we could have ever imagined and we realized it was in fact us making the process more complicated than it needed to be!
Things may not be perfect right away & you don't have to have everything figured out. While we had a lot figured out - one thing that wasn't completely secured was a house. We ideally wanted to have a house secured before moving, but between time and reality - it didn't work out that way so we got a short term lease apartment while we got situated in our new state. I'm so glad for that time. The place we had was nice, clean & we got to live in a completely different area of town & experience what that was like. Many looked at us like we were crazy for not having a permanent housing situation lined up, but I shed that judgement quickly. This was a fun time for us to just ride the wave of life & we had damn near everything in place - there was no need to over stress about the one thing we didn't have in place. I knew in time things would fall into place & shortly later they did.
You will lose people in the move. One thing that was a lesson learned was that some of the friendships and family relationships I had with people simply existed out of convenience of seeing them everyday and nothing else. While I'm not a perfect Patty on staying in touch with people but I learned a lot of people I only had relationships with them because I came to them on a frequent period. The minute I wasn't available on a convenient level they never called, they never checked in and they couldn't hear about my life because it wasn't anything they were familiar with or cared to immerse themselves to learn more about. It was huge blow because some of those people in my life I did my best to show up for the best way I could whether it be for big life events, gifts, etc. and sadly that same effort wasn't reciprocated back the minute we left state lines.
You will gain a whole new life perspective. Achieving this huge life goal of moving out of state allowed me to prove to myself that I can do anything - even if it is hard. The only thing standing in my way of making changes is me & my fear of failure.
You do meet new people. I was stressed because moving here being nearly 30 & married can be hard to meet new people. Especially at this age - a lot of people are in different waves of life. Some are still single & mingling, some are married with several kids, etc. I've been lucky enough to find a mix of both! With a little effort of putting myself out there to meet people - I've been pretty successful in getting to connect with some great people!
My only regret? I wish I would have made the move sooner! I don't regret my decision one bit to leave Michigan & move to North Carolina. The weather is tremendously better for my health & overall it truly was the best decision for my little family. One year down & I can say with absolute certainty that this has been the best year of my entire life.
Thanks for reading!
XOXOXO
Mrs. Northern Belle
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